Less than 30

This past weekend, I spent a majority of my night talking with and closing a cute woman that I had the pleasure gaming. In the end I found myself with digits that I will not be able to use. I can hear it, everyone gasping at the thought of unused digits, why would I collect a number without ever dialing it to see where it goes.

Well despite my hope that there was an opportunity of a new lady in my life, I quickly learned I was going to be fighting an uphill battle. After I got done locking down the number, my friend put in some due diligence, and learned that the woman in question was 30, though that is not a problem for me. To be quite honest none of us in the group could believe she was actually that age. He also learned that she would never date anyone more than a year younger than her. Well there goes 3 hours of work aka a conversation. I rather would have spent my night face buried in the drink at the local watering hole, there goes $100 of tax payer money all to close an impossibility. I guess the positive side to that is that practice makes perfect. However, the game can get pretty boring without a partner I spend a majority of my time "practicing," put me in Coach!

Despite the failure I honestly felt bad for her. I understand her position, at her age, she has seen the dog and pony show, she has met the wizard, and wants to click her heels to get out of there and go home with her "soul mate."

I personally think women especially Indian women have a long list of criteria that must be met before buying a ticket and embarking on the cruise. Generalizing of course, age, height, social order, are a few requirements that many women have. My issue with this is that I feel that if you have so many minimum requirements you are losing out on the opportunity to meet people who may be right for you though they don't make the requirements. For those of you who would think I do not have any experience with this, let me tell you, so often I have been given the same excuses of why I would not be a suitable suitor. "I am sorry, we have been friends for too long; I am sorry I know its dumb but you are a few years younger than me and its a big deal for me," and so on and so forth. I have heard the excuses of why it can't happen, instead of these women rolling the dice and putting the faith that it only has to happen once.

I do not think its their fault though. Its an injustice of social norms created by a conservative Indian community that is still trying to find itself in this adopted country. Their parents, their relatives, and their friends add to the social pressures that force them to adopt such rigid requirements. In the end it is this generation that will push these social norms to open up the rigid requirements for the next generation; which will be more "American" than anyone from the 1st generation Indians who are currently navigating and balancing their culture as we assimilate into the crowd. In the end I hope that more of the Indian women will push the social norms and roll the dice and take some chances. If not I guess I will have to start working the Viagra triangle circuit to meet those Pumas and Cougars who are not faced with social pressures to please their culture, Jilly's here I come!